![]() I was in-patient, and my parents weren't there at the time. The other was when I was still in a children's hospital. One was quite recently, and I'm not really sure why she brought in a chaperone or if that's typical or not. My female GPs have never even mentioned bringing in a chaperone, although I actually have had a female gynaecologist get a nurse - also female - to chaperone on two occasions. lsgs's point about physical strength doesn't really apply to me either because I'm tiny and have the strength of a kitten, so the vast majority of women could physically dominate me if they wanted to anyway. It's not logical of me, as females can also behave inappropriately, whether with men or women, although it does seem it's much more common for it to be a man. The fear isn't something I'm able to control. It seems really unfair that the actions of a tiny minority of men/doctors make me suspicious of everyone, but I'm really not sure what else I can do about it. I think it was towards the end of last year that I saw a male gynaecologist who I'd never seen before, and as he was talking to me and explaining that he was going to have to examine me, I started panicking and saying I didn't want the exam, but after he'd got a nurse to come in and they talked to me a bit more I went through with it. But with a doctor I don't know I have no way of making sure he can be trusted. I have a male colorectal surgeon who I've seen for several years, and I'm ok when he does a rectal examination even if there's no one else there. I really hate that I'm implying that I see all men as potential threats, but I don't know how else to deal with the situation other than to have a chaperone. I'd experienced this with a male doctor, and don't think I'd ever be comfortable with a male doctor I didn't know well. It was a little weird.Ĭlick to expand.I don't think people fear that they will be found attractive so much as that a doctor may be inappropriate with them. I found the doctor getting the chaperone more unsettling than him just going ahead and doing the exam. I've only ever had a chaperone for examination as a private patient, incidentally. Patients will lie about the strangest things. I'm a dentist and I always have to have a chaperone (my dental nurse) in the room as witness even as a woman. I would imagine historically there have been few accusations of men being raped by women than otherwise. Patients will lie about what has happened in the room. It's also to protect the doctor as much as the patient. There's no getting around that men and women, regardless of sexuality, are different in both physical and mental attributes, accounting for the difference in job roles the different sexes excel in etc. I tend to think it's more to do with physical difference between men and women than implying men can't control themselves. I don't think too many doctors are out because they probably worry about the impact it may have on their profession and ability to get patients.Ĭlick to expand.I think if women could intimidate or physically dominate men there would be the same requirements though. I don't know what happens with gay doctors but id imagine its the same thing, a male doctor touching a woman will have someone come in the room even if he is gay. It didn't bother me but I don't believe a female with a male doctor would ever experience that without a female in the room to ensure nothing goes wrong. As a male, one female doctor gave me a full examination including touching my genitals and nobody else was present. ![]() I have seen few female doctors because I think the field is still dominated by men and nursing by women. The term for this is heterosexism, everyone is heterosexual and no regard or thought is given to the fact that some don't fall into the majority identity. I definitely think we base everything on the assumption that you are heterosexual unless otherwise noted. Everyone has different tastes and I would hope in a medical setting that the person conducts themselves professionally. People are always fearful that they will be found attractive by someone they are not interested in and that's just crazy. Regardless of orientation not all men or all women will be attracted to everyone. There are so many stereotypes and misconceptions that society is operating on to justify the way in which we do things. I absolutely think there is a hypocrisy and double standard going on in this regard as well.
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